Leading at Home or at Work: Empathy is Not Enough

Coaching, parenting, leadership at all levels etc. require an ability to connect, to care about, relate to and sometimes care “for” another person. Important in all this is understanding 3 integral words: sympathy, empathy and compassion.

Sympathy:

Understanding what someone is going through on an intellectual level. “I get this is a difficult time for you”.

Empathy:

Experiencing what someone is going through on an emotional level. “I feel your struggle, I relate to it”.

Compassion:

Empathy plus action for the benefit of the other person. “I feel your level of hurt and uncertainty and I want to help you with that.”

Compassion not only helps the receiver more than empathy alone can, it also helps the helper as well. Compassion is more of a cognitive response, a decision to do more for someone than just feel with them. This move to action (your action and supporting their action) can renew a helper’s helping energy/avoid empathy burnout and make a significant difference in someone else’s life. Compassion (empathy plus action) can do much to help someone move past struggle and doubt.

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